tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8704101475950309711.post6341205984633485919..comments2023-10-22T10:26:01.308-05:00Comments on My Precious Pennies: Grumpy DayRita @ My Precious Pennieshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12669593628662763872noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8704101475950309711.post-17411081001658570402008-11-19T16:29:00.000-06:002008-11-19T16:29:00.000-06:00Now I feel like a total idiot. I don't blame you ...Now I feel like a total idiot. I don't blame you for your rant. When it comes to your children, you need to be ONE with the caregiver's. You need to feel like they are working with you and believe that you are working hard to protect and nurture your child. I have heard that breast fed babies take bottles from dads better. I have also heard about wrapping an article of your worn/dirty clothing around the bottle while you try to feed. That way the baby has your scent right there in his/her face. I have a friend that is having trouble getting her 6 month old to eat solids. He doesn't have a weight issue, but it concerns her nevertheless. I hope things improve with your baby girl. She is just precious.Sandy H.https://www.blogger.com/profile/09709601293614321040noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8704101475950309711.post-76771801219357088842008-11-19T09:07:00.000-06:002008-11-19T09:07:00.000-06:00sorry to hear that the doctor is an idiot. it must...sorry to hear that the doctor is an idiot. it must have been really hard to keep quiet while there.my dd was never on the charts. she just didn't like to eat an refused to drink formula. we did end up getting her adenoids and tonsils out this september (age 2) she still doesn't eat alot but she finally is on the ten percent scale. i personally think if your child is moving around an doing normal activities they should be ok. my son is 7 monthe old right now an he will not take a bottle or a sippycup. i have tried everykind. an we only have luck with feeding him bananas. each child is different i wish you luck an i would talk to your hometown docs again. they know her better an can help you more.meihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12865476300867987241noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8704101475950309711.post-11201622299011904432008-11-19T08:42:00.000-06:002008-11-19T08:42:00.000-06:00Wow, sounds like you did have a crummy day. My da...Wow, sounds like you did have a crummy day. My daughter (who is now 7) sounds exactly like your daughter. When she was a baby she was deemed "failing to thrive" and they wanted to do bloodwork, run tests, have her see a nutritionist, a gastroenterologist and the list goes on. I put my foot down and made a definite plan as to what I was going to and NOT going to put my daughter through. Long story short, she is perfectly healthy happy and yes small in weight and height for her age, BUT that is how my daughter is built. She is petite and gains weight very slowly and that is probably the way it is going to be for the rest of her LIFE. DON't let those doctors make you feel like you are a bad parent (they made me feel that way to) because you aren't! You know what I told the doctors, I said I can make my daughter a 1,200 calorie meal but if she doesn't eat it, it won't matter, I can't force feed her. By the way my husband was in the military for 10 yrs, I feel your pain. Keep your head up!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8704101475950309711.post-52736996247332138512008-11-19T06:45:00.000-06:002008-11-19T06:45:00.000-06:00I'm not sure what service your husband is in, but ...I'm not sure what service your husband is in, but there should be some family advocate for you. In the Marine Corps there is a Family Readiness Officer that should point you in the right direction and the EFMP (Exceptional Family Member Program) should point you in the right direction for having your husband accompany you to the out of state doctor appointment. The best place for help for any service is the militaryonesource.com. They are there 24 to help you with anything. Give them a call, and they will do all the leg work for you.<BR/>Best of luck with the baby!Danielle Porterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12074922851589610276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8704101475950309711.post-21986462198076125642008-11-18T19:29:00.000-06:002008-11-18T19:29:00.000-06:00I'm sorry you had such a rotten day. It sounds li...I'm sorry you had such a rotten day. It sounds like the specialist was completly out of line and shouldn't be working with babies if he doesn't have the bedside manner to deal with their parents. Doesn't he know you can't bully a baby into doing anything? Can you try giving the baby oatmeal baby cereal instead of rice? I didn't stick to rice cereal with my 3rd child because he HATED it. But he loved oatmeal and took to it right away. I mixed with with breast milk and then with pureed fruits once I was sure he wasn't allergic. Maaybe you could talk to your doctor or nutritionist about some of those things. I wouldn't do a thing that the specialist said without talking to your doctor and nutritionist first. I'm sorry that your husband has a boss who is a pompus ass...hopefully things will work out. Good luck and keep us posted.Shaylynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08256348640658548741noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8704101475950309711.post-27317479991248399002008-11-18T19:21:00.000-06:002008-11-18T19:21:00.000-06:00Hey Rita, I just want to add that mommy inutition ...Hey Rita, I just want to add that mommy inutition is (almost always) right! If you think she's fine, then don't let that Dr. bully you. My son is 21 months old and 17 lbs. He isn't even on the growth chart. He's small. End of story. I'm not going to feed him cream and add butter to everything. I've done my research and listened to all the options. As babies get older, weight gain slows down. As long as she doesn't lose weight...don't let them tell you a darn thing! Also, maybe pump some breast milk to add to her cereal? <BR/><BR/>Avacados mashed up...fatty and most babies like them.Life as a Greenstreethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17200036619373869527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8704101475950309711.post-4753392331534361902008-11-18T19:11:00.000-06:002008-11-18T19:11:00.000-06:00My daughter is just a few weeks older than yours, ...My daughter is just a few weeks older than yours, so I have enjoyed your little side stories about her. I am sorry to hear about this most recent development, though. I wanted to send a couple more ideas your way: try mixing the cereal with either breastmilk as someone else suggested, or apple juice, which will give her some extra calories vs. using water. My daughter shows a clear preference for cereal when I mix it with apple juice over my own milk (and she LOVES to nurse). Also, you could try a sippy cup at this age if she is having a bottle strike. I haven't tried milk in a sippy cup, but my baby has enjoyed drinking water and juice out of it. If she has trouble getting the liquid out, remove the valve from the sippy cup. It will come out a little faster than she's used to, but it's better than her getting frustrated and giving up completely. Good luck and I will continue to follow along for updates on your baby girl...as well as your great money saving info! :-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8704101475950309711.post-12211024634294458482008-11-18T18:03:00.000-06:002008-11-18T18:03:00.000-06:00I don't know your babies complete story but wanted...I don't know your babies complete story but wanted to encourage you. My youngest (who is now eleven) was diagnosed with failure to thrive at one point during his infancy and it wasn't until he went to an endocrinologist that had his adenoids and tonsils removed (he was sick all the time) when he was 8 that he had a growth spurt (he had worn 5T clothes for 3 years!)<BR/>I tell you this to say hang on and your baby will be okay. The most important thing is having a mama that advocates for you- which you obviously do. God will take care of the rest and you are in my prayers!Melissa, Multi-Tasking Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04552463538625125742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8704101475950309711.post-8850542580156713612008-11-18T17:36:00.000-06:002008-11-18T17:36:00.000-06:00Wow! That totally makes me mad when doctors (or a...Wow! That totally makes me mad when doctors (or anyone else for that matter) talks down to parents. He needs to remember if it weren't for parents like you bringing their children in..he wouldn't even have a job! We went through a similiar situation when my son was born. He wouldn't latch on to my breast and wouldn't take formula...it was a hairy couple of weeks tryin to get the kid to eat! Then, we find out he wasn't gaining weight because he had allergies to all kinds of stuff. Have they considered it could be some sort of allergy? I feel for you sooo much. You stick to your guns..and don't ever let anyone tell you what is best for your child and try to make you feel like you aren't a good mother. And, your hubby has every right to be there at appointments with you...since when is paperwork more important than family! That is just outrageuous...I hope everything gets sorted out soon..I will check back in to make sure all is well! Take care of all 3 of you!Angiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17436870034358846845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8704101475950309711.post-55147686075377755682008-11-18T17:00:00.000-06:002008-11-18T17:00:00.000-06:00Oh dear- I'm so sorry you had such a rotten day. ...Oh dear- I'm so sorry you had such a rotten day. I will pray for weight gain for your peanut. I have lots of friends with lots of babies and they are all different sizes. Hang in there, she'll be OK. <BR/><BR/>Also- my girls would NOT take bottles unless I warmed them. They liked breast milk- which is automatically warm and would not take something cold- maybe that would help?<BR/><BR/>As for military, my mom was a military mom for awhile when my sister was a baby. It is not easy, but she made it and my sister is awesome. Hang in there- and fight for your rights :)Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13640917051247731729noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8704101475950309711.post-42048071411492603552008-11-18T16:38:00.000-06:002008-11-18T16:38:00.000-06:00Girl, let it out! Say, "I am Rita, hear me roar!" ...Girl, let it out! Say, "I am Rita, hear me roar!" Okay, the last part was a bit cheesy, but what can I say, that's how I blow off steam.<BR/><BR/>On a more serious note, I'm praying for your little princess. I can imagine the feeding/weight issue is causing a lot of stress - and I KNOW you are doing the absolute best that you can do (and then some). That's just what we moms do - our doctors and specialists think we are crazy, but our mom gut lights a spark in us that causes us to do ANYTHING for our children. Unfortunately when some "hot shot" says that's not enough, we go into fight mode (okay, at least I do).<BR/><BR/>You go girl!Alihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01474904464659650603noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8704101475950309711.post-89369347630155784842008-11-18T16:20:00.000-06:002008-11-18T16:20:00.000-06:00Wow, what a stressful day! I will send good thoug...Wow, what a stressful day! I will send good thoughts your way. As for her not liking the cereal mixed with formula...what about mixing it with breast milk? I always pumped milk because I worked, so we mixed our baby cereal with warmed breast milk. He liked that much better than water. Good luck with your force feedings! I pray you don't have to hospitalize her.Sydnihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13646693640815374265noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8704101475950309711.post-19135086784969515342008-11-18T15:34:00.001-06:002008-11-18T15:34:00.001-06:00You are TOTALLY allowed your rant! What a pompous...You are TOTALLY allowed your rant! What a pompous you-know-what the doctor sounds like. And man, that sucks about your hubby's job. Argh.<BR/><BR/>Ok, let it out. Relax. We're here for you. And I'll say a prayer for your little girl (and you, and hubby and all her health care providers).<BR/><BR/>Hope it gets better...<BR/>ginabad<BR/><A HREF="http://www.mom-blog.com" REL="nofollow">mom-blog.com</A>ginabadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03088452361963571004noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8704101475950309711.post-9715384871008508172008-11-18T15:34:00.000-06:002008-11-18T15:34:00.000-06:00Thanks for the suggestion, and we're going to try ...Thanks for the suggestion, and we're going to try it since so far he's had more luck with all this food mess. But the thing is she also went on an anti-bottle campaign about a month ago and she's still going strong. She USED to take a bottle (formula or breastmilk), but recently she wants absolutely NOTHING to do with them. <BR/><BR/>Strangely, I wasn't told to shove a bottle down her throat. When I asked them if I should pursue the bottle issue, they just said to let it go.Rita @ My Precious Pennieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12669593628662763872noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8704101475950309711.post-22397962101078235872008-11-18T15:28:00.000-06:002008-11-18T15:28:00.000-06:00Wow, what a day you had! I'm sorry that the doctor...Wow, what a day you had! I'm sorry that the doctor was so condescending. It's almost like he was accusing you of neglect and that's ridiculous.<BR/><BR/>On a side note, will your little one take formula from your husband better than from you, by chance? Mine wouldn't take it from me because she knew I was the milk truck and she didn't want anything but the real deal out of me but she eventually took it from my husband if I wasn't around. It took a little while but she did.<BR/><BR/>Good luck! I'll be thinking of ya!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com